Is it really Christmas?!

This is now the third draft of this post. I hope it will be the final one, but there is certainly no guarantee of that. I have so much that needs saying and so little capacity to say it well. So. Merry Christmas. We love you all and are so thankful for your love, prayers, and support over this year. And, oh my, thank you God for the end of this year! We are at an end and a new beginning. It is apropos. All treatment is complete, and we begin the remission journey. For the next five years, Adam will be scanned, examined and tested at regular intervals. If, by God’s grace, he is still cancer-free at that point, he will be considered cured. We will at some point be capable of being happy about that, but for now, we are simply numbly grateful that we are done with treatment.

For right now, we are trying to recapture a home and family life that aligns with what we used to have. You know, the kind where we spend time together instead of each hiding in our rooms. I want to start cooking and eating together and planning for the future again. Adam has to relearn how to do all sorts of things – from buttoning buttons to typing to balancing all his responsibilities at home and at church. We have to forgive ourselves, each other and everyone else for hurts intentional, accidental, real or simply imagined. And we still cry a lot. We hope we’ve learned to be gracious with others and with ourselves through this ordeal.

This Christmas isn’t about giddy excitement – except for with the kids who absolutely CANNOT calm down…. But for us, it is about comfort and consolation. Peace. It is a quiet sort of joy and that is all I have the capacity for. We barely made it…and only by the grace of God and with the help of loved ones. But that isn’t a bad picture of life.

So here is your virtual Christmas card in blog form…with no pictures because…well, you know. I look like crap! Everyone else is cute…. We are here. And we have great hope for 2014: we are tentative and wounded, but we are trusting and healing.

Farewell 2013. You are the year brought to us by cancer and we will not miss you, but we will never be the same and will be thankful for the lessons we have learned and the love we have given and received.

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6 thoughts on “Is it really Christmas?!

  1. Linda Himmelwright says:

    Thank you for sharing God’s grace and faithfulness with so many of us. We love you and wish you a Merry Christmas.

  2. Ed Hague says:

    Part that made me cry – “we are tentative and wounded, but we are trusting and healing.

    Farewell 2013. You are the year brought to us by cancer and we will not miss you, but we will never be the same and will be thankful for the lessons we have learned and the love we have given and received.”

    Amen, Lydia. Love to you and Adam and your family. Great love!

  3. Marty Davis says:

    Well said, Lydia. Happy Christmas to the Tisdales!

  4. Patsy Couch says:

    Have a blessed Christmas. I know, as a family in the arms of our Lord and Savior, you will. Praise Him for Adam’s progress and the end of treatments, and now, His comfort and peace in finding your new “normal.” We love and miss you.

  5. Patsy Couch says:

    Bless you all this Christmas. We love and miss you.

  6. Melissa Colson says:

    Lydia, Thank you for sharing and being so open and honest through this journey.

    Love, Melissa

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